One of the UK's best-loved psychotherapists reveals the blind spots that are clouding our judgement and affecting our relationships, and shares the tools to overcome them
Have you ever had a conversation with a friend or relative that's hit a nerve and you can't figure out why it bothered you so much? Over the course of her 15-year career, Emma has discovered that the root of this pain and confusion often lies in a blind spot: a gap in our awareness that distorts how we perceive ourselves and our loved ones which, left unchallenged, can leave us feeling unloved, insecure or overwhelmed.
In What am I Missing? Emma reveals the four blind spot profiles along with client case studies to demonstrate how they show up in daily life, and exercises to help us see past them:
Are you THE GLADIATOR, determined but missing trust?
THE BRIDGE, easy-going but missing authenticity?
THE HUSTLER, charming but missing self-worth?
Or THE ROCK, resilient but missing boundaries?
Like sitting with your own therapist, What am I Missing? will help you understand yourself and your loved ones better than ever before, and gives you the keys to a happier life.
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'This book changed my life' Elizabeth Day
'Beautifully observed, insightful and validating' Julia Samuel
'Gently powerful, helpful and hopeful' Anna Mathur



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